Dealing with Comparison

Hi my name is Shylah and I struggle with comparison, too.

As much as I would love to pretend that I don’t compare my life to others, I would be lying. But how can you not when you have everyone’s lives being broadcasted on social media?

I live in San Diego, California where the cost of living is out of this world. I fortunately live across the street from the beach, but unfortunately pay a hefty amount for it. I’m not here to complain, but I do want to lay this all out for everyone. I choose to live this way, I get it. However, it is still so hard to see people my age on social media living across the country building their dream homes from the ground up (and owning them).

How can you not want that, too?

Like, damn look at that kitchen? OMG look at all of the land they have! Wow, they own that property?!

I would also be lying if I said Trevor and I don’t dream of maybe moving to the middle of the US and having that lifestyle, too..

It’s hard to own a house here, especially in the area that we currently rent.

So yes, this is what I’m currently struggling with: dealing with comparison.

However, I have to remind myself that yes, I may be renting for a long ass time, but I am so fricken fortunate to have a roof over my head, a beach across the street that I can walk to whenever I please, and to be living with the love of my life.

It’s all about changing your perspective.

It’s inevitable for myself not to compare my lifestyle with others, but the more I practice on changing the narrative, the more happier and present I am with all that I have been blessed with.

There are two options: I can either sit here and wish for all of the things that others have or I can pray for patience, write down all the things that I’m grateful for and enjoy where I’m at in this stage of my life.

I’m practicing the second option!

Just a lil food for thought –

Do you catch yourself comparing? How do you reel yourself back in? Would love to hear your thoughts.

Check out this post for my mental health routine.

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